Get Unstuck in Life
The important word here is not ‘stand outside; or ‘stand at the center’ but ‘need’. When we don’t have a need or a compulsion, it is obvious that one size cannot fit all. It is sometimes useful to stand outside and get an outsider’s perspective. Look from new eyes. Sometimes it is useful to be …
“Don’t worry…women just cry. Makes us feel better” My wife kept saying this. So did other women. I had a very hard time wrapping my head around this statement. Why would someone cry?! Isn’t it something to be avoided? Why would someone not share?? Was it something I did? Then I am ready to solve …
“I want to learn singing, but I am afraid I am really bad at it” “I want to open my own business, but I am afraid to take a risk” “I want to profess my love to her, but I am afraid she will say ‘No’” So the big question before doing anything big or new is how to overcome …
Simple question: Can you see your story, instead of being your story? Try to sense the difference in the sentences below… _________ “Being disrespectful is not done!! Something I cannot tolerate!!” Vs “I see that when I hear people speaking in a loud tone and making personal comments, I perceive that as disrespect and experience …
You might find yourself ‘working hard’ towards your goals or dreams – and still not moving ahead. On a closer look, it turns out we are not pursuing our goals, but preparing for them. What is the difference? Preparation involves hard work, but zero risk. The outcome is totally in your control. There is zero …
We often tend to be obsessed with efficiency and productivity. How do we do the same thing faster? Which things can we stop doing? How can we become leaner, faster? Mark Zuckerberg wears the same colored clothes daily to avoid “decision fatigue”. It’s helpful, but how much? Reminds me of the joke “What do people …
“Be part of the solution, not the problem” is something we all know. If you believe enough in this, you have likely looked for solutions in your life, rather than cribbing about problems. That’s a huge step indeed. In fact, I have spent a huge part of my life looking for the right solutions. What …
Have you found yourself stuck and saying this: “I wanted to do blah blah…but my parents don’t support it.” “I wanted to pursue blah blah…but it is not acceptable in my community” “I wanted to try blah blah…but my spouse doesn’t agree.” You get the pattern. We see these as the causes for not being …
Doing someone’s performance evaluation discussion can be very tough sometimes. Sometimes, when the feedback receiver is feeling really disturbed, angry, try saying: “You know we are not talking about your evaluation, right?” Pause. They will be thrown off. Let the awkward silence pass. Wait for the “What the heck do you mean?” expression to show …
If you hate yourself, and are asking this question, then you are probably not aware of what ‘loving yourself’ means. You are not alone by the way. It is a very, very, very common misunderstanding. We confuse love with ‘approval’. So loving myself would mean approving myself. If hating means judging myself negatively, loving would …