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A few days ago, just before Independence day anniversary, I noticed an interesting phenomenon on Linkedin. The #boycottLSC campaign was in full swing. The allegation being the movie and Amir Khan disrespected our army people. The assumption being that the movie would hurt them, make them unhappy. And we wanted them to be happy. So the whole …
“I have so many dreams, but my family does not support me” Have you felt this? Heard this? The family altar where dreams go to die. This is common in cultures where gender roles are very strong. Women who have been homemakers their entire lives, who want to do something, but do not get family …
It might be easy to believe that intelligence is the solution to confusion. And yet, our intelligence is the very thing that often holds us back, keeps us stuck. In fact, I like to say that intelligence people might have it worse! Sounds familiar? Strange? Read on…
A lot of times, we see our close ones, our friends behaving in ways that are making them suffer. Sometimes we think the solutions are obvious too. Except that when we suggest them, the friend won’t listen. Instead, they often push you away. And then proceed to make matters worse for themselves! We really want …
“If her husband tortures her so much – why doesn’t she leave??!!!” “If the boss is so abusive – why doesn’t he stand up for himself??!!!” “If they have a problem – why don’t they just talk!!!” “If she doesn’t agree – why doesn’t she just tell her parents!!???” “If he knows he is going …
‘Acceptance is the answer to everything’ is a common cliche in spiritual circles. ‘Do not resist life’, ‘Resistance is ego’, ‘Flow with life’ While it is true, there are some obvious doubts. Is there something like too much acceptance? What if someone is an abusive relationship? Should she practice ‘acceptance’ and suffer? But isn’t acceptance …
“Smart people learn from their mistakes” Agree?But what if we believe that the mistake is not our’s? 🙂 Which I guess is …most of the times 😉 Do you see why learning is hard? 😀 For example, if someone leaves the org – we ponder why and try to learn. Underlying assumption is “Attrition is …
There are no passive aggressive people. There is passive aggressive behavior. So passive aggressive people are not bad. Passive aggressive behavior causes some undesirable consequences. The stereotypical image of a passive aggressive person is an “Evil manipulator whose aim in life is to make people feel guilty and then control them to get what they want.” If that is …
I get a lot of “But how do I respond to when _<situation>__ happens?” kind of questions. How do we respond when something is not going well? The interesting thing is, the answer does not change much. And I love giving this metaphor of a tree. This is useful in dealing with employees, people, children, …
‘Ego’ has always been an evil word. “He is an ego maniac!!”, “She is so egoistic!” have always held negative connotations. So when someone says “Ego is not bad” it can be treated as another platitude which is more a function of our “inability to call a spade a spade”. Come on!! How can having …