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A few days ago, just before Independence day anniversary, I noticed an interesting phenomenon on Linkedin. The #boycottLSC campaign was in full swing. The allegation being the movie and Amir Khan disrespected our army people. The assumption being that the movie would hurt them, make them unhappy. And we wanted them to be happy. So the whole …
“I have so many dreams, but my family does not support me” Have you felt this? Heard this? The family altar where dreams go to die. This is common in cultures where gender roles are very strong. Women who have been homemakers their entire lives, who want to do something, but do not get family …
When I was a kid, the most painful words I ever heard was “You are being too sensitive!!” Today, when I reflect back – I would agree I did cry at things that seem small today. I also did not cry at things that seemed very important to other kids. But that is never the …
A lot of coachees I talk to have this problem in common: Social anxiety. The description is along the lines of “Whenever I enter a social situation, I feel very anxious about what people are thinking about me. Scared of they judging me. I feel as if the entire room is staring at me. This …
It might be easy to believe that intelligence is the solution to confusion. And yet, our intelligence is the very thing that often holds us back, keeps us stuck. In fact, I like to say that intelligence people might have it worse! Sounds familiar? Strange? Read on…
We are all chasing happiness. Or something we believe will bring happiness. Many of us are even chasing the ‘present moment’! But the pursuit itself is tiring, exhausting. Never ends. Like a man chasing his shadow. We suffer. This suffering is punctuated by monetary pleasures, where we think the pursuit has ended. Until we find …
A lot of times, we see our close ones, our friends behaving in ways that are making them suffer. Sometimes we think the solutions are obvious too. Except that when we suggest them, the friend won’t listen. Instead, they often push you away. And then proceed to make matters worse for themselves! We really want …
“If her husband tortures her so much – why doesn’t she leave??!!!” “If the boss is so abusive – why doesn’t he stand up for himself??!!!” “If they have a problem – why don’t they just talk!!!” “If she doesn’t agree – why doesn’t she just tell her parents!!???” “If he knows he is going …
‘Acceptance is the answer to everything’ is a common cliche in spiritual circles. ‘Do not resist life’, ‘Resistance is ego’, ‘Flow with life’ While it is true, there are some obvious doubts. Is there something like too much acceptance? What if someone is an abusive relationship? Should she practice ‘acceptance’ and suffer? But isn’t acceptance …
No word has been misused more than ‘acceptance’. How acceptance is misunderstood… It often becomes a weapon. An excuse for resistance to change: “I refuse to change!!! I accept myself as I am!” An excuse to be a jerk: “If you accepted me for who I am, this would not have been a problem” An …