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A lot of coachees I talk to have this problem in common: Social anxiety. The description is along the lines of “Whenever I enter a social situation, I feel very anxious about what people are thinking about me. Scared of they judging me. I feel as if the entire room is staring at me. This …
“I don’t know what to do!!” is a problem we often struggle with. This would make it seem as if the answer has to do with the path. With “How do I get there?” Faster, cheaper, easier. But often, the problem is not in finding the answer to “How do I get there?” as much …
It might be easy to believe that intelligence is the solution to confusion. And yet, our intelligence is the very thing that often holds us back, keeps us stuck. In fact, I like to say that intelligence people might have it worse! Sounds familiar? Strange? Read on…
“If her husband tortures her so much – why doesn’t she leave??!!!” “If the boss is so abusive – why doesn’t he stand up for himself??!!!” “If they have a problem – why don’t they just talk!!!” “If she doesn’t agree – why doesn’t she just tell her parents!!???” “If he knows he is going …
“Our education system is just about mugging up and vomiting in exams. Only marks matter. Nothing else!! Just adding more rats to the rat race”, screamed Amit in anger! “No attention to individual likings, interests, passions. Just a mass assembly line! Everybody just runs behind money and status and ends up in mid-life depression by the …
“Smart people learn from their mistakes” Agree?But what if we believe that the mistake is not our’s? 🙂 Which I guess is …most of the times 😉 Do you see why learning is hard? 😀 For example, if someone leaves the org – we ponder why and try to learn. Underlying assumption is “Attrition is …
I want to use this opportunity to deal with all questions along the lines of “How do I stop myself from XYZ?” Whenever we face a question like this we have two choices. Start thinking on “Why am I stuck?” or “Why I cannot do XYZ.” Start thinking on “How can I move ahead?” or “How can I …
“I enjoy painting. So I paint” is simply a choice. “Since I keep painting, I have grown much better at it” is a possible result.“But I enjoy painting anyway. So I paint” is still a choice.Now…“What’s the use of being good at painting, if I wont do it regularly and monetize it?” That’s just the …
I get a lot of “But how do I respond to when _<situation>__ happens?” kind of questions. How do we respond when something is not going well? The interesting thing is, the answer does not change much. And I love giving this metaphor of a tree. This is useful in dealing with employees, people, children, …
“I feel lost. I feel life has no meaning. How do I find the purpose of my life?” It is a big, deep question we have all struggled with at some point in life. Whenever we are not able to find the answer to a question despite a lot of thought, the chances are there …