Get Unstuck in Life
Suffering is unnecessary, but still extremely natural. Nothing to be embarrassed about. This can be difficult, especially in spiritual circles if suffering is downplayed a lot. Imagine a 4 year old crying desperately because his toy broke. “It’s just a toy!” True. The crying is unnecessary, but still extremely natural. The suffering is very real …
Have you wondered why we love babies and toddlers when they are smiling…or angry…or sad? They have this full presence no matter how they are feeling. When adults feel angry, they are also thinking “But is it the right thing to do? Does that make me a bad person?” The anger is incomplete. If they …
To fear to do something is normal. And temporary. Justifying makes it permanent. “I feel nervous to speak on stage” is normal. You can feel afraid and speak anyway. You will sweat a little, tremble a little, and then say what you have to say. But if you add “…because as a kid, I was …
Have you been in situations where your loved one is hurt, you feel bad, you try to change, but nothing seems to be good enough, and you cannot help but wonder if the problem is you or them? When someone is in pain, empathy is feeling bad FOR them. Guilt is feeling bad ABOUT MYself …
One of the biggest lies sold to us is that the meaning of life is to to be ‘found’. ‘Discovered’. This would mean that the meaning is out there. Lying somewhere. Unchanging. Static. Waiting to be found. And yet, we are meaning creation machines. Reality just has a bunch of a neutral events. Like scattered …
Have you ever wondered what the secret behind great leadership is? Have you ever seen arguments? That it is about ‘authenticity’…or ‘integrity’..or ‘compassion’….or ‘vulnerability’ perhaps! There are dozens of answers and hundreds of arguments when it comes to cracking the code of life. All based on one assumption: That there is one single answer. And …
Have you ever laughed at someone’s stupidity? On how they failed to see something? For example, in 2000, Netflix founders Reed Hastings and Marc Randolph offered to sell the company to Blockbuster for $50 million. Blockbuster turned them down. Netflix is today worth a $25 BILLION! Do you feel like laughing at Blockbuster? Even feel …
We analyze, think, over-think, obsess, mull, debate, argue on what is the right decision. As soon as we see the possibility of undesirable consequences, we assume the decision is not good enough. And we think more. We forget that the consequences are absolutely not in our control. Including the emotional consequences. For others and for ourselves. More …
Learn to give the feeling of “I don’t know” a chance. When you have all those emotions of fear, anger, hatred, disgust welling up inside you, those thoughts of uncertainty taking roots…take a pause…and say “Maybe I do not know…” and stay with it. Without trying to ‘Find the answer’. Relax into the ‘suspended’ state. The …
As a father, mother, partner, employee – have you found yourself saying… “Why can’t he be a little disciplined and wake up early! I am tired of re-heating his breakfast!” “Why can’t she do it herself and not be so damn lazy?! Why do other people have to do her work?” “Why can’t he …