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When I was a kid, the most painful words I ever heard was “You are being too sensitive!!” Today, when I reflect back – I would agree I did cry at things that seem small today. I also did not cry at things that seemed very important to other kids. But that is never the …
‘Big ego’ is often misunderstood as a high “superiority complex”. Actually the ‘ego’ is simply the ‘complex’ itself: Our idea, our concept about ourself. Doesn’t matter what the idea is. It might be a positive idea(“I am a great human being…others are average”) – which is commonly believed as “being egoistic”. It can be a negative …
I could tell you a 100 reasons why you should say ‘No’, why trying to please others is futile, why setting boundaries is healthy – but you already know all that! Otherwise you would not be asking this question. Therefore, I think it might be more useful to understand what stops us from saying ‘No’…even if we know we …
OK. I want you to stop thinking of something. Don’t worry, it is not something that really matters to you, or something that you need to think about. I want you to stop thinking of ….. a CAMEL. What!! You thought of a camel, didn’t you?!! Why did you think of a camel even if you were …
An eighteen year old recently asked “I am 18 and I have ruined my life. What do I do?” Got me thinking… Let me see. I am 35. As far as I can remember, I have ‘ruined my life’ at least 6 times – once at 15, then at 17, 20, 30, 32, 34. In …
We have this assumption that being emotional is being irrational. Counter productive. Silly. And being rational is about being cool, calm…and most importantly – unemotional. This often creates a conflict where others blame us for being ‘too logical’, ‘cold’, ‘insensitive’. Can being emotional and rational go together? Can they be balanced? Yes! By understanding how …
Short answer: You cannot, unless you look at it in a totally different manner. We think that what we know exactly what we want. That we are pursuing a clear “goal” of success. Point A to point B! Simple! Right? If I work hard enough, long enough, then “I will become awesome”. There are so …
Do I really have to forgive people? No, you don’t. “Forgiveness” is muddled with confusion though. So it is helpful to be clear what it is and what it is not. There are 4 aspects: Hurt: When someone hurts you. You feel pain. You are angry. Especially if you cannot retaliate. Forgetting: Forgetting that the painful …