Get Unstuck in Life
No word has been misused more than ‘acceptance’. How acceptance is misunderstood… It often becomes a weapon. An excuse for resistance to change: “I refuse to change!!! I accept myself as I am!” An excuse to be a jerk: “If you accepted me for who I am, this would not have been a problem” An …
Previously, in Are you stereotyping yourself? we talked about how we might mistakenly think that we are our personality and limit ourself to it. Today we look at how this whole personality thing actually works If you have practiced the guitar a lot, or know someone who does – you know that you develop calluses(a …
We talk about gender bias, religious bias, racial stereotyping, stereotyping OTHERS all the time. What about stereotyping OURSELF? When I stereotype myself saying “I AM a structured person” I lose access to the possibilities of spontaneity. When I stereotype myself saying “I AM a spontaneous person” I lose access to the possibilities of consistent, structured …
Though you might be disturbed by the amount of hate and polarization in society nowadays, have you wondered how it gets created? Not who is to blame (politicians, technology, capitalists, irrational people, woke people…) but how does it get created. Because unless we know that, we will not be able to prevent ourselves from being …
I loved fantasizing about touring the world. I could imagine floating on Dal lake in Kashmir in one moment, on the top of Eiffel tower the next, and sliding on Alaskan glaciers a few seconds after that. Hundreds of places I could be at the same time!! Without the limitations of space and time! That’s …
Who said you should be nice to anybody? This is a common problem with a ‘morality’ based approach. The conclusion is already formed, and then we search for ‘noble’ justifications. Worse – we cite some scriptures and swallow it whole. Without investigating why. We should examine at which point “being nice” or “being bad” starts. …
“Our education system is just about mugging up and vomiting in exams. Only marks matter. Nothing else!! Just adding more rats to the rat race”, screamed Amit in anger! “No attention to individual likings, interests, passions. Just a mass assembly line! Everybody just runs behind money and status and ends up in mid-life depression by the …
My answer will sound very counter-intuitive. Until it won’t. 🙂 This was my approach earlier: Have I analysed all the pros and cons? Am I sure the pros outweigh the cons? Have I made sure that I have thought of a solution for all possible cons? Have I taken steps to avoid all possible negative …
Do you feel totally empty, lost, joyless at work? Even if it is a good company, pays decently and there is nothing too bad to complain? The first reaction of the mind is to analyse, analyse, analyse. I will not suggest to think your way out of this problem. You cannot. The other common reaction …
Do not do anything. Relax. And just try to understand what I am trying to say below. Really try to understand. Just try to understand. You think you are depressed, suffering from anxiety and hence you keep getting negative thoughts: “I have low self esteem”, “I wont be able to understand it”, “I hate studying”, “I …