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I want to use this opportunity to deal with all questions along the lines of “How do I stop myself from XYZ?” Whenever we face a question like this we have two choices. Start thinking on “Why am I stuck?” or “Why I cannot do XYZ.” Start thinking on “How can I move ahead?” or “How can I …
Here’s a spiritual answer to a logical question. Clarity of speech and writing springs from clarity of thought. So the question is how can I develop clarity of thought? For clarity of thought, the short answer is: Keep asking ‘Why’, ‘What is the underlying belief here?’ and ‘What if that belief was not true?’ and …
Give up trying to be “mentally strong”. Let us say I am trying to punch you in the abs. You will tense up your muscles, hold your breath and try to be strong. What if a 2 year old baby is trying to punch you in the abs? Will you tense up your muscles? The …
There are no passive aggressive people. There is passive aggressive behavior. So passive aggressive people are not bad. Passive aggressive behavior causes some undesirable consequences. The stereotypical image of a passive aggressive person is an “Evil manipulator whose aim in life is to make people feel guilty and then control them to get what they want.” If that is …
Somebody asked me a fantastic question recently “Does our mind creates its own villains to defeat?” The answer is a fat ‘Yes’ – and is at the root of too many ‘challenges’ we face. The interesting thing is the ‘villain’ might be super complicated, too big, too hard to defeat – but the ‘villain creation’ …
“I enjoy painting. So I paint” is simply a choice. “Since I keep painting, I have grown much better at it” is a possible result.“But I enjoy painting anyway. So I paint” is still a choice.Now…“What’s the use of being good at painting, if I wont do it regularly and monetize it?” That’s just the …
‘Ego’ has always been an evil word. “He is an ego maniac!!”, “She is so egoistic!” have always held negative connotations. So when someone says “Ego is not bad” it can be treated as another platitude which is more a function of our “inability to call a spade a spade”. Come on!! How can having …
I was part of this learning program recently. And the discussion was happening around how we create labels, identify with them and once we identify, the labels start controlling us. This is when a young lady, with sincere large eyes, and a voice with the steadiness of a Ghazal singer asked earnestly “But what when …
Have you ever been told this? “Just because you can win every argument, doesn’t make you right!” “It’s useless to argue with you!” “I cannot argue as well as you do, but I KNOW I am right!” Even if you are an analytical, “evidence based” person? Someone who worships critical thinking and reason! In your …
There is no dearth of suffering that we undergo. We are also aware that much of it is not physical pain, but plain mental anguish. We also know that many other people are able to deal with things we are not able to. Like many other people do not fall sick due to some things …