Can’t I get the same advice from a friend or a family elder?

Yes, you can. And sometimes it’s enough. But often there are challenges:

  • Their own insecurities e.g. “Having a secure job is important”, “Get a degree in which job is assured” Their biased beliefs e.g. “All men are like that”, “Girls today will never…”, “Divorce is never the answer”
  • Their personal judgements e.g. “You disagree? You think you know more? That’s disrespect”, “I told you so”, “How could you ever do that!”, friends ending up taking sides Offering advice rather than insights e.g. “I will tell you what you need to do…”, “Trust me and do …” Following someone else’s path can never be meaningful.

A coach provides a non-judgmental, unbiased and objective environment. This takes skill. And then asks the questions that help you sift through your insecurities and fears, unearth your true priorities and see clearly. This takes more skills.

The ideal aim is to get you to say “Wow! Why didn’t I think of that earlier?” J That’s the hall mark of a good coach. To make you feel if you found the answer yourself!